Oooooooo parenting.....another thing know almost nothing about. I know very little about what it is like to be a parent, but that does not stop me from wanting to learn what I can do to be the best parent and know how to parent most effectively.
I want to raise a family. I believe that is a very honorable thing to want and it is definitely something to work for. It is important to educate oneself and be prepared because I can only imagine that parenting will be nothing how I expect it to be. There will be good times and there will be bad times, but the best times will be watching my children learn and grow and I want to make sure that I do all that I can to give them the best. Children deserve good parents; parents who are willing to of give themselves entirely to raising and teaching their children valuable life lessons that will surely benefit them throughout their lives. They have many needs. Kids seek attention, and have universal needs like contact and belonging. In order to feel like they belong they need to learn and be taught how to contribute. Parents should also offer affection and contact freely. We all have needs. We also have wants and desires, but is very important to get the necessities. Brother Williams shared a quote. I am not sure who wrote it but it says,
"You can never get enough of what you don't need because what you don't need won't satisfy you."
Parenting is a group effort. Each partner must work together, to get to know their children, and learn what works best with teaching, disciplining, showing affection, and protecting their well being. In class we learned that there are many styles and ways to parenting and I would like to share those with you.
Authoritarian
Permissive
Authoritative- most effective
The most important thing to parenting is to teach by example and to treat your children the way you want to be treated. Families should not have a ton of rules but they should have some choices and consequences. There should be discipline but not a lot of punishment. I have been learning about this in my childhood education class. Discipline is more structured and more effective where punishment gets little accomplished and can have lasting negative affects on the parent-child relationship. Consequences should be natural and requests should be polite. Brother Williams also shared this "I" message principle when sharing emotions. It is very effective. When my family went through some counseling, our counselor taught us this method and honestly, I felt a lot more caring and understanding with the emotions of my other family members because they actually had to explain why they were feeling a certain way instead of just yelling and complaining their feelings.
"I" Message
When you________________
I feel____________________
Because__________________
I would like_______________
I admire all parents and their efforts to raising children. My time will come and I will do all that I can to prepare so that I can be a caring, responsible, effective, and confident parent.
I want to raise a family. I believe that is a very honorable thing to want and it is definitely something to work for. It is important to educate oneself and be prepared because I can only imagine that parenting will be nothing how I expect it to be. There will be good times and there will be bad times, but the best times will be watching my children learn and grow and I want to make sure that I do all that I can to give them the best. Children deserve good parents; parents who are willing to of give themselves entirely to raising and teaching their children valuable life lessons that will surely benefit them throughout their lives. They have many needs. Kids seek attention, and have universal needs like contact and belonging. In order to feel like they belong they need to learn and be taught how to contribute. Parents should also offer affection and contact freely. We all have needs. We also have wants and desires, but is very important to get the necessities. Brother Williams shared a quote. I am not sure who wrote it but it says,
"You can never get enough of what you don't need because what you don't need won't satisfy you."
Parenting is a group effort. Each partner must work together, to get to know their children, and learn what works best with teaching, disciplining, showing affection, and protecting their well being. In class we learned that there are many styles and ways to parenting and I would like to share those with you.
Authoritarian
- parent/control-oriented "You must respect me!"
- discouraging
- manipulative
- selfish
- parents demand respect
- there are few choices and no arguing with the parent
- love and acceptance is determined by performance and compliance
Permissive
- parents neglect the needs of the child "I don't really respect you."
- there is free choice and no consequences
- child-oriented
- little effort and direction on the parent's part
- parents are more of a friend than a guide
- short-term results
Authoritative- most effective
- parents are actively involved
- long-term results
- respect and consistency
- active parenting
- rules, consequences, and choices (fair)
- balance between permissive and authoritarian
- friendly and firm
- boundaries are clear
The most important thing to parenting is to teach by example and to treat your children the way you want to be treated. Families should not have a ton of rules but they should have some choices and consequences. There should be discipline but not a lot of punishment. I have been learning about this in my childhood education class. Discipline is more structured and more effective where punishment gets little accomplished and can have lasting negative affects on the parent-child relationship. Consequences should be natural and requests should be polite. Brother Williams also shared this "I" message principle when sharing emotions. It is very effective. When my family went through some counseling, our counselor taught us this method and honestly, I felt a lot more caring and understanding with the emotions of my other family members because they actually had to explain why they were feeling a certain way instead of just yelling and complaining their feelings.
"I" Message
When you________________
I feel____________________
Because__________________
I would like_______________
I admire all parents and their efforts to raising children. My time will come and I will do all that I can to prepare so that I can be a caring, responsible, effective, and confident parent.