I have made many adjustments throughout my lifetime: school, moving, physical development, going to college, being on my own, and dating (just to name a few). I will make many more adjustments, but what I think will be the most challenging is adjusting to the married life. Not only are you moving in with someone you've never lived with before, you are moving in with someone you will be living with for the rest of your life. You need to learn how to live with him (or her if you're a guy).
Here are a few adjustments that I have thought of:
Make plans with your spouse, communicate, express your emotions, and lay everything out on the table. Be accepting of each others differences and short comings. Love your spouse, and recognize their efforts. Forgive and forget and move on when there are arguments or disagreements. Last but not least, understand your spouse. You should know the person you are marrying. Guaranteed, you wont know everything, but get to know them and where they come from. Do all that you can.
Here are a few adjustments that I have thought of:
- Sleeping with someone else in your bed
- Sex
- Cooking for two
- Thinking of someone else/putting their needs before your own
- Budgeting/finances
- Who is going to clean?
- Who is going to take out the trash?
- Dealing with the toilet seat
- Managing your time for each other
- Children (discussing a future family)
- Not hanging out with your friends as much as you used to
- Dealing with the emotions of one another
- In-laws
Make plans with your spouse, communicate, express your emotions, and lay everything out on the table. Be accepting of each others differences and short comings. Love your spouse, and recognize their efforts. Forgive and forget and move on when there are arguments or disagreements. Last but not least, understand your spouse. You should know the person you are marrying. Guaranteed, you wont know everything, but get to know them and where they come from. Do all that you can.